Things I want my Kids to Know – You Are Loved

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You are Loved More Than You Could Ever Know….

This is the beginning post in my bi-monthly series of posts …”Things I Want My Kids to Know”- sharing insights, life lessons, and thoughts that I hope to pass along.

As my first blog post in this series it is very appropriate to let you know that I have loved you before you were born and I will love you always.

From your first heartbeats, to your first cries, to your first steps, to your funny expressions, your first words, your giggles, your adorable smiles, the sparkles in your eyes, your enthusiasm … Oh okay I’m Mom so I could go on FOREVER – I just love EVERYTHING  about you 🙂   You are each so very unique – God only made one Lakota~ and only one Nokona~.

Lakota, you were my first, and with you, everything was new. I had no idea what to expect, what to do as a mom,.  Oh,  its exciting, fun, frightful, and adventuresome to be a mom for the first time.   You were my beautiful “Little Britches” from the beginning… always the morning baby, bubbly & always smiling, sweet right to the core.  Nokona, my second born, I was excited to find out that we were going to have a little boy.  My handsome, “Little Bear”,  so kind & loving, your hugs that would melt anyone, always the curious one, you take everything in (more than most people realize).  I even love your night owl tendencies.  Your sissy was a big help when you were born but having two precious little ones to care for was new territory and still quite the adventure.  You have both grown into wonderful children. I have been very blessed to be your mother.

 I don’t know if it is even possible to describe a love a parent has for a child.   Moreover, it is even less possible for a youth/child to comprehend its depth. 

I want you to know that I don’t expect you to be perfect.  I know that you will make decisions that will thrill me and some choices that I may disapprove, as you get older; however, my love is not contingent on your actions.  I will ALWAYS love you.  There is nothing that you could ever do that I would cause me to stop loving you.

That being said, I am not perfect. I apologize upfront for my misgivings/failings but I will do the best I can to be the best mom I know how to be.   Love does not mean that you get everything you want – Quite the contrary. BECAUSE I love you, I WILL tell you “No” sometimes.  I will give you rules and expect you to follow them. 

I will always be your loudest cheerleader.  I will always encourage excelling and helping each of you in any way possible toward your goals.  Foremost, I will be your parent.  I will put every effort into equipping and shaping you toward being the best Lakota and Nokona you can be as you grow into adulthood.  I am always here if you need to vent, to talk, to reason.  However, I won’t always have the answers to every problem life throws our way, but God does and we can trust him!

Nokona & Lakota I love you to the moon and back times infinity (=


I love your…

Energy             Hugs                Mommy Spa Nights                Smiles              Chattiness              our walks/runs/hikes

 Those crazy things you say                to hear you Sing          Charisma         Helpfulness

“Shopachocic” Ways               Remembrances of “Later-ago”

 your “I love you Mommy”        Focus            bright minds

 Compassion                kindness          thoughtfulness            love for our Bible Lessons           hugs             contagious giggles        your love for animals & nature

 Inquisitive thinking  & mind-boggling questions                love for sports and activity                 friendliness                         the bright sparkle in your eyes

I love the way you set your mind and go after it

I love the way you are driven and don’t give up easily      

I love the way you are close to each other and look after each other

 I am so very thankful for every moment!

 Love Always!

Mom

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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There will be Days like That ……

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Momma Said There'd Be Days Like This

Momma Said There’d Be Days Like This

Some days it’s a struggle – just to keep your chin up! 

You know those types of days….

Feeling under the weather,
There’s a growing list of things that need to be done,
Add in a couple extra stressors, arguing children, frustrating circumstances at work,

delays to well thought out plans, general bumps in the road, minor car problems,

and a schedule that was meant for

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                   SuperMom (Which I most definitely am NOT)!

I’ve a had few of these kind of days…

and it builds up until it spills out…..

While I can be a bit quiet when I first meet people, I love to socialize, hang out and chat almost anytime.
But one day a few weeks back,  I could tell my frustration and worries were about to overflow…. ¯\(°_o)/¯

Oh my goodness, I wished I had a warning light or sign on my head that activated when I have hit this point of exasperation…. for the sole reason of letting anyone who may venture up and start conversation to know that I am out of sorts.

maybe …A NEON FLASHING BILLBOARD That  READS :  WARNING!!!    CAUTION !!! —-  APPROACH At Your Own Risk BECAUSE TODAY – I AM NOT MYSELF- CONSIDER YOURSELF WARNED! Please don’t hold anything I say against me! 

 Notice – I am NOT acting/reacting as my optimistic self today- Beware you may hear excessive complaining or whining (which is not my normal character) – PLEEEAAASSEE DON’T ASK ME HOW I AM TODAY — I REALLY DON’T WANT MY WORDS TO SPILL OUT AND RUIN YOUR DAY!!

With my energy depleted, try as I might to hold in my frustration at my week, sadly, I was no match 😦  .
The words came barreling on out bombarding my thoughtful friend who just happen to ask – “How are you today?”

To my Dear Friend,  I AM SOOOO VERY SORRY That I INUNDATED you with barrage of my minor problems at the time. EVEN MORE, I  SINCERELY THANK YOU FOR YOUR PATIENCE, UNDERSTANDING AND FOR JUST BEING A LISTENING EAR. 

Did complaining or whining about my week make any part of the problem change? – NOPE !!!
Did I feel better? Not Really.

There ARE times it is good to vent or talk out what’s bothering you. However in my case – there wasn’t a means of a solution, it was just an ALL OUT “here’s what I have going on in my little world waaahh session”.

Most days, I try to stick to… “If you can’t say something nice, then don’t say nothin’ at all” even in regard life circumstances and frustrations. Simply because there is already enough negative in the world.  

 

Honestly though,  If you live in the REAL world and not some imaginary world where everything comes up roses and sunshine…
We ALL  have “THOSE DAYS, THOSE WEEKS, and sometimes THAT KIND OF YEAR”!
No matter how strong, optimistic, independent,and prepared you try to be, you will still encounter days like this.

How do you deal with it?  Here is a strategy that can help through those times…

(remember it doesn’t mean those difficult days won’t happen. The strategy just helps keep us from getting STUCK there)

 

  • If you happen to break out into a complaining /whining session – Fine, No Big Deal!…. we’ve all been there—->Just don’t stay there!!! – Speak it, get it out, and put it behind you. Don’t Dwell on It and continue every future conversation about it.

    • Don’t let your mind stay in the negative.– You don’t have to Fake or Force the positive, just stay out of the ” ohhh poor me” thoughts. When they pop in your mind distinctively choose to push them out and focus on other things instead.

    • Count your blessings– you’ll find that they DO outweigh the bad (if you really count them all).

    • Take a walk – Exercise and fresh air does wonders for your mental state.

    • Put on your headphones or turn up the music  (in your car or at home).  SIng ~Dance~ Jam~ to your favorite music.

    • Read Something (preferably something uplifting/encouraging)

    • VERY VERY IMPORTANT—- Do NOT get on Facebook – when you’re feeling frustrated and depleted it’s not the time to check the timeline to see how “great and nearly perfect” everyone else’s lives APPEAR to be

    • Do something nice for someone else (Random act of kindness)

    • Call it a day (or night) and realize it’s time to break away – it’s time to get some rest and re-energize tomorrow is a new day.

Sometimes, it will continue to be a tough go for a while.

  • Surround your self with good friends and family or find a support group.
  • Spend time with God and reading scripture. Especially those scriptures that remind us of his faithfulness, mercy, promises,and attributes of        God.
  • During those life seasons, it’s a matter of putting one foot in front of the other, keep pushing through and persevering—         just keep going.

As for me – I am gratefully back to being myself ….

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Putting that one foot in front of the other and humming a cheerful tune.

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