Don’t throw the Facebook out with the bath water!!!

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Don’t Throw Facebook Out with the Bath Water!

Whew, finished with this hiatus …Thankfully!!!

For those of you who thought I would say Facebook and social networks are “evil” and a waste of time or you should boycott them…then you will be disappointed in this post! ….

I TRULY Miss my social networks and the interaction with all the friends that I don’t get to see very often because of our varying schedules or the miles between us. Social networks and technology have become staples in my life and both have wonderful benefits.
What was that old saying??…dont throw the baby out with the bath water– …. Don’t throw Facebook out with the bath water either…. That is the perspective I have about social networking. It can be great way to connect and interact. Yes- it has it’s dangers and it’s hazards. Yes- if you let it, your social networking can become ALL Consuming and even detrimental to your Social Skills outside of the net.

I DO NOT TRUST NOR BELIEVE EVERYTHING I read on a social network or for that matter even on websites.   Those I meet through social sites are not on the Blind Trust list because I find there is a “false sense of security” that comes along with technological network socializing.  You may “feel” like you know someone or they may manipulate their interactions so that you really have no clue as to their true intentions.

I also believe there  are a lot of good people but BEWARE there are some people who are not at all who they say they are out there too. Considering this fact, it especially concerns me that many young people today, are so revealing about information that could put them in danger. I view Facebook and other social networks as a tool to be utilized.  The networks are not  inherently good nor bad… they just “are”  and I realize just like any other utility/tool they can be wielded in the hands of a user intending it for good or one who uses it for nefarious reasons.

What did I learn from my two-week hiatus…..It was a good  learning experience.

I had become quite accustomed to daily checking in on various social networks. Not “addicted”, par se’, but it appears more because of habit and out of sincerity of heart that I utilized the  networks more frequently than I realized. Social networking is convenient and gives me a means of  keeping in touch with friends near and far regardless of our busy schedules.

I was amazed at the amount of RE-FOCUSED time I had and the productivity I was able to generate with that time while was on hiatus.

I also found during this down time that I spent quite a bit more time listening….to my kids, to music, to my family, to friends…. (which is something I want to do more often)

I need to be more mindful and intentional of the time I am spending on-line and set limits so that I can enjoy both the assets of technology and social networking as well as the day-to-day practice of Living in Each Moment. Going forward I will guard my time more wisely by setting reasonable limits and staying focused on my purpose for being on-line. Whether I am logging into a social network or checking the headlines, it is essential that I keep a clear focus and not meander or “chase rabbits” …otherwise what is intended as a quick moment on the phone/computer can all too quickly become hours taking precious time away from other areas of my life

Additionally, I need to be making sure to allocate time in my schedule to relax and enjoy my downtime a bit more. On occasion I may take a hiatus again, to make sure my perspective is still in-line. I find it very helpful and healthful (mentally and physically) to UNPLUG for incremental breaks because it seems to be during those times life becomes most clear to me.
Thanks for reading 🙂

For those of you not familiar with the idiom about the bath water, you can check this link at your leisure… http://www.wisegeek.org/what-does-throwing-the-baby-out-with-the-bath-water-mean.htm

Day 3 Kymberlee Blogs Intro

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7) It’s not easy to be a single parent…its very difficult to be mom/dad/coach/comforter/disciplinarian/counselor/ etc ….complete parental unit in one human being all the time.   Although the rewards are double, so is the responsibility of my decisions.  As a side note:  There is so much talk/ many written articles about single parent homes and children of single parent homes -however I am a firm believer that children “raised” (Not children raising themselves) by a caring devoted single parent have NO disadvantage!!

8) I love my children and am very blessed to have the privilege to be their mom.  Although there are days when my energy and patience are waning– Not a single day comes that I am not thankful for EVERY moment (even the gross cleaning up sickness moments, or tearful sad moments each family endures, or the grumpy pushing every one of moms buttons moments) I get with my children. I cherish all the moments and enjoy each joyful/fun ones all the more.

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9) It’s not easy being transparent to the world…. I thought journal blogging would be easy. For me, it’s not so difficult to write, but some things are difficult to say out loud (especially to the blog world).  Thoughts come to mind and you sometimes have to deal with emotional and life baggage you may have that you didn’t even realize.   It has definitely taken me out of my “comfort zone” even at this early part of the journaling/bogging, but by the same token it is freeing.  I choose not to write “to please” others, yet deep down you know there is a risk to putting yourself out there.  There are those friends/acquaintances you could unintentionally offend/alienate and those who will judge you. I choose to be real –  so I must say Que Sera Sera (What will be – Will be)

It’s day 3 of 5 on the Introduction series of my blog- Thanks again for joining me.  If you missed Days 1 & 2 you can check the links on my blog page.

Have a blessed Day!