There will be Days like That ……

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Momma Said There’d Be Days Like This

Some days it’s a struggle – just to keep your chin up! 

You know those types of days….

Feeling under the weather,
There’s a growing list of things that need to be done,
Add in a couple extra stressors, arguing children, frustrating circumstances at work,

delays to well thought out plans, general bumps in the road, minor car problems,

and a schedule that was meant for

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                   SuperMom (Which I most definitely am NOT)!

I’ve a had few of these kind of days…

and it builds up until it spills out…..

While I can be a bit quiet when I first meet people, I love to socialize, hang out and chat almost anytime.
But one day a few weeks back,  I could tell my frustration and worries were about to overflow…. ¯\(°_o)/¯

Oh my goodness, I wished I had a warning light or sign on my head that activated when I have hit this point of exasperation…. for the sole reason of letting anyone who may venture up and start conversation to know that I am out of sorts.

maybe …A NEON FLASHING BILLBOARD That  READS :  WARNING!!!    CAUTION !!! —-  APPROACH At Your Own Risk BECAUSE TODAY – I AM NOT MYSELF- CONSIDER YOURSELF WARNED! Please don’t hold anything I say against me! 

 Notice – I am NOT acting/reacting as my optimistic self today- Beware you may hear excessive complaining or whining (which is not my normal character) – PLEEEAAASSEE DON’T ASK ME HOW I AM TODAY — I REALLY DON’T WANT MY WORDS TO SPILL OUT AND RUIN YOUR DAY!!

With my energy depleted, try as I might to hold in my frustration at my week, sadly, I was no match 😦  .
The words came barreling on out bombarding my thoughtful friend who just happen to ask – “How are you today?”

To my Dear Friend,  I AM SOOOO VERY SORRY That I INUNDATED you with barrage of my minor problems at the time. EVEN MORE, I  SINCERELY THANK YOU FOR YOUR PATIENCE, UNDERSTANDING AND FOR JUST BEING A LISTENING EAR. 

Did complaining or whining about my week make any part of the problem change? – NOPE !!!
Did I feel better? Not Really.

There ARE times it is good to vent or talk out what’s bothering you. However in my case – there wasn’t a means of a solution, it was just an ALL OUT “here’s what I have going on in my little world waaahh session”.

Most days, I try to stick to… “If you can’t say something nice, then don’t say nothin’ at all” even in regard life circumstances and frustrations. Simply because there is already enough negative in the world.  

 

Honestly though,  If you live in the REAL world and not some imaginary world where everything comes up roses and sunshine…
We ALL  have “THOSE DAYS, THOSE WEEKS, and sometimes THAT KIND OF YEAR”!
No matter how strong, optimistic, independent,and prepared you try to be, you will still encounter days like this.

How do you deal with it?  Here is a strategy that can help through those times…

(remember it doesn’t mean those difficult days won’t happen. The strategy just helps keep us from getting STUCK there)

 

  • If you happen to break out into a complaining /whining session – Fine, No Big Deal!…. we’ve all been there—->Just don’t stay there!!! – Speak it, get it out, and put it behind you. Don’t Dwell on It and continue every future conversation about it.

    • Don’t let your mind stay in the negative.– You don’t have to Fake or Force the positive, just stay out of the ” ohhh poor me” thoughts. When they pop in your mind distinctively choose to push them out and focus on other things instead.

    • Count your blessings– you’ll find that they DO outweigh the bad (if you really count them all).

    • Take a walk – Exercise and fresh air does wonders for your mental state.

    • Put on your headphones or turn up the music  (in your car or at home).  SIng ~Dance~ Jam~ to your favorite music.

    • Read Something (preferably something uplifting/encouraging)

    • VERY VERY IMPORTANT—- Do NOT get on Facebook – when you’re feeling frustrated and depleted it’s not the time to check the timeline to see how “great and nearly perfect” everyone else’s lives APPEAR to be

    • Do something nice for someone else (Random act of kindness)

    • Call it a day (or night) and realize it’s time to break away – it’s time to get some rest and re-energize tomorrow is a new day.

Sometimes, it will continue to be a tough go for a while.

  • Surround your self with good friends and family or find a support group.
  • Spend time with God and reading scripture. Especially those scriptures that remind us of his faithfulness, mercy, promises,and attributes of        God.
  • During those life seasons, it’s a matter of putting one foot in front of the other, keep pushing through and persevering—         just keep going.

As for me – I am gratefully back to being myself ….

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Putting that one foot in front of the other and humming a cheerful tune.

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Through A Valley

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Near to still waters

I read the words then re-read the words over and over mulling over them in my mind.

“In the valley of the sheep, David learned to depend on God. God’s presence, provision, and power accompanied David wherever he went and people could see it.” … “Maybe you’re in your own valley of sheep right now. Maybe you think you are going unnoticed and your assignment is not what you want it to be. Just remember we must go through the valley, where we humble ourselves before God, before we can go out for God…”  –  Derwin L. Gray in his book   Limitless Life: You Are More Than Your Past When God Holds Your Future 

Had David not spent time in the valley with the sheep and experiencing what God had for him in the valley would he have become the courageous person who faced the giant? I am sure that he gained wisdom in the valley that he would draw from years later when he was king.  We can all take courage that our God is infinite and awesome exceeding human expectation. Now, not all of us will be king, nor will we all take our place in history for slaying a philistine giant. However we do have dreams God has placed in our hearts and we all have/will have valleys where we can humble ourselves, drawing closer to God, gaining wisdom and experience.  We don’t know what the future holds for any of us but we can be sure of one who does. 

A few years ago, I began a weight loss journey through eating and fitness modifications.  My weight loss in less than a year was about 130+ pounds.  From that point I continued to learn from many wonderful trainers and friends more about nutrition and fitness.  I began to realize I had a passion for helping and encouraging others to pursue fitness and health.  I enrolled in a program to become a personal trainer.

Then my path was diverted. My children experienced some health issues, my finances tightened further, and I began to inexplicably gain some weight. I had not made changes in my eating nor alterations to my fitness endeavors but I was gaining weight and becoming totally frustrated.   In total I gained almost 30 pounds.  We tested for a variety of possible explainable health causes to weight gain – but Nothing.  Nothing that is except stress.  Stress, worry, and anxiety have repercussions on a body as well as mind.

As I sat in my frustration I also looked over my life – Wow I had become COMPLETELY out of Balance. My eating was very rigid (more of an extremely restrictive diet than a plan I could live with the rest of my life).  My kids were great about my gym time and encouraged me.  The gym had a daycare the kids could hang out while I worked out which is great. However I was always on-the-go hurrying here to there.  Yes they saw the value “I” placed on fitness and being healthy but for my family was I helping them to be active and healthy?  There was way too much emphasis on the “I”.  Where was our quality time?  Was my life teaching them proper perspective? Please don’t read this wrong… I believe in hitting the gym, working out and staying fit.  And I DO believe everybody, parents included (especially us single parents) need some “me” time –and gym time is a great stress reliever for me.  But I had taken it beyond “me” time to an EXTREME- and it needed to be adjusted.

I paused in my pursuit of being a personal trainer – I felt inept.

This year was the breaking year for me; with better balance I began to again pursue my fitness and health goals with my kids along side. Instead of pursuing self –glorification, I choose now to seek after honoring God more through my fitness and nutrition endeavors. In stewardship, I want to take care of the body I have been given. I still hit a gym when I can- and I work out at home. I’ve been able to shed many of the pounds I had regained.  Moreover, I am eating more balanced and living life a bit more fully.

A couple months back, someone asked me whether I ever finished the personal training certification – I dropped my head and said “no”.  In my heart I still had the calling, the passion to encourage and help others but because of the set backs I had allowed myself to be defeated.  I had just a couple weeks left to finish the course but had no intention to do so – self doubt and fear can be very crippling. A few days later, my daughter and I were discussing the personal training.  I rattled my excuses… my gaining a some of the lost pounds back and my frustration with it,  my desire to be closer to my goals, and every other reason I could think that would cause me to fail.  This child is my cheerleader in every sense of the word it is a gift God has blessed her with. In her sweet way she can speak words that hit me directly in the heart.  “Mom, I guess I don’t understand….Don’t other people have the same struggles?  Don’t they get frustrated?  But then that means you “get it” – you’ve been there and come through it… Right??  You can understand and help them…”     This mom just had to stand there with her mouth open- WOW!!!  Why did it take my daughter to speak it for me to see it?

So one week before the expiration of the personal training course I still had to pass a few more chapter tests, the finals, and work studies in hopes to get the certification.  Again, God blessed and saw me through it successfully.  The last piece, a CPR/AED certificate, has to be in place for me to be able to say that I have my completed ISSA Personal Trainer Certification and that class is scheduled for this upcoming Saturday. While I know, I am still a work in progress – (but aren’t we all?)-  I am excited to see what the future holds and very thankful that the dream he placed was not allowed to just fall to the wayside to later become a regret or “what if”. I am hopeful, maybe God can use me, to inspire and encourage others as they face similar struggles in their lives.

Then and Now

Then and Now

 

While I CANNOT say my venture through this valley the last couple of years has been pleasant or fun, I CAN say it was humbling and needed. I can look back and say that the trip through the valley made me come to the realization that I didn’t have all the answers and had absolutely no control.  It required me to put away pride,(that had seeped in and taken hold) look up, and place it all in God’s hands, seeking him for direction and answers. Today, with complete sincerity of heart, I can tell you – I am thankful for the journey through this valley. I am thankful for what I am learning everyday.

 

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Don’t throw the Facebook out with the bath water!!!

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Don’t Throw Facebook Out with the Bath Water!

Whew, finished with this hiatus …Thankfully!!!

For those of you who thought I would say Facebook and social networks are “evil” and a waste of time or you should boycott them…then you will be disappointed in this post! ….

I TRULY Miss my social networks and the interaction with all the friends that I don’t get to see very often because of our varying schedules or the miles between us. Social networks and technology have become staples in my life and both have wonderful benefits.
What was that old saying??…dont throw the baby out with the bath water– …. Don’t throw Facebook out with the bath water either…. That is the perspective I have about social networking. It can be great way to connect and interact. Yes- it has it’s dangers and it’s hazards. Yes- if you let it, your social networking can become ALL Consuming and even detrimental to your Social Skills outside of the net.

I DO NOT TRUST NOR BELIEVE EVERYTHING I read on a social network or for that matter even on websites.   Those I meet through social sites are not on the Blind Trust list because I find there is a “false sense of security” that comes along with technological network socializing.  You may “feel” like you know someone or they may manipulate their interactions so that you really have no clue as to their true intentions.

I also believe there  are a lot of good people but BEWARE there are some people who are not at all who they say they are out there too. Considering this fact, it especially concerns me that many young people today, are so revealing about information that could put them in danger. I view Facebook and other social networks as a tool to be utilized.  The networks are not  inherently good nor bad… they just “are”  and I realize just like any other utility/tool they can be wielded in the hands of a user intending it for good or one who uses it for nefarious reasons.

What did I learn from my two-week hiatus…..It was a good  learning experience.

I had become quite accustomed to daily checking in on various social networks. Not “addicted”, par se’, but it appears more because of habit and out of sincerity of heart that I utilized the  networks more frequently than I realized. Social networking is convenient and gives me a means of  keeping in touch with friends near and far regardless of our busy schedules.

I was amazed at the amount of RE-FOCUSED time I had and the productivity I was able to generate with that time while was on hiatus.

I also found during this down time that I spent quite a bit more time listening….to my kids, to music, to my family, to friends…. (which is something I want to do more often)

I need to be more mindful and intentional of the time I am spending on-line and set limits so that I can enjoy both the assets of technology and social networking as well as the day-to-day practice of Living in Each Moment. Going forward I will guard my time more wisely by setting reasonable limits and staying focused on my purpose for being on-line. Whether I am logging into a social network or checking the headlines, it is essential that I keep a clear focus and not meander or “chase rabbits” …otherwise what is intended as a quick moment on the phone/computer can all too quickly become hours taking precious time away from other areas of my life

Additionally, I need to be making sure to allocate time in my schedule to relax and enjoy my downtime a bit more. On occasion I may take a hiatus again, to make sure my perspective is still in-line. I find it very helpful and healthful (mentally and physically) to UNPLUG for incremental breaks because it seems to be during those times life becomes most clear to me.
Thanks for reading 🙂

For those of you not familiar with the idiom about the bath water, you can check this link at your leisure… http://www.wisegeek.org/what-does-throwing-the-baby-out-with-the-bath-water-mean.htm

Yepp, I admit it ….

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OK I know it won’t literally “Kill” me but this Facebook Hiatus is more difficult than I anticipated!!!

Yepp, I will admit I miss it – and I have a Facebook/social media habit!  But I am recovering… \(^_^)/   à  One day at a time!!!

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A few journal notes ….

Day One— Am very thankful that I had the foresight to turn off all Facebook notifications so that I would not be pulled immediately back into using the social media.   It was a big thing for me to actually LOG OUT of Facebook on my phone (don’t know why, just something detaching and cold about it)  Many times I inadvertently still found myself thinking – I wonder what my friends are up to today (keep in mind I can call and ask but it’s easier if they are all updating Facebook right!?!?)

Day Two- Eye Opening…. One of my morning thoughts….Check Facebook- wish my friends a great day- see who’s having a birthday.  Did this friend have a great trip?  Wonder whether this person’s event went well- I sure hope so.  Even with good intentions the evidence is here.  Oh, I have a terrible habit… why is it I think I need to check Fbk/Pinterest/Twitter in the morning?  What is going on in this world that I MUST check my social network to get updated?  After making it through the morning without a social network fix… I get an email from a family member about an opportunity they think I’d like to participate in…. Guess what? You HAVE to sign up thru Facebook so it’s a no go!  Have you noticed everybody (businesses) wants you to “Like” them on Facebook or “Follow them on Twitter for special offers, discounts, etc YIKES–when did this happen???!!

Day Three- Getting easier.  Still have the thought multiple times throughout the day to check into the social media and see what’s happening in others lives, make a post or two.  Fight the urge to log in- Fight it !!!!!  Am finding that without the logging in on various social media I DO Have more time on my hands- That’s A PLUS -for a mom who doesn’t have enough hours in a day for what needs to be done!

Day Four:  Woke this morning feeling a bit more introverted /“anti-social” which is odd for me. But I fight it by deciding to get out of my little corner of the world and get some things done.  Thoroughly enjoyed the workday scheduled at the church and a few errands then back home to do my yard work. (Thankfully the grass is dry enough to mow!!! )  Not feeling anti-social anymore 😀  I think being on the social media maybe hindering me socially because it’s not Face-to-Face  social interaction. I think I need to be more Real Life social (personally) and less media social.

Day Five: I haven’t really noticed the “need” to post anything today, but it was a rather busy day.   I really enjoyed talking to friends at church, Bible Small Group Time and our Worship Service today.Spent some time thinking and putting some things in perspective.

Here is what I have noticed so far….

Turning off the social media opened up time so that I…

  • Had time to read.  I know this  may sound odd, but I actually had time to sit down prop up my feet and spend some time diving into written word this week.  (Not the rushed/ on a time limit/ can’t remember what I read) but true relaxing recreational enjoyment reading
  • Turned in my homework a day early  🙂 Yay me!!! (Instead of 1 hour before it was due)
  •  Had time to do more Bible Study and quiet time this week.
  • Got a few more things accomplished during my day than I expected. Definitely have found myself more productive in the time I am spending on projects. 
  •  Took a walk in the Rain and Loved it!   I am still wondering  where ALL that rain was coming from— because the sky looked like this!!!  
  • Beautiful sky where is the rain coming from?

    Beautiful sky where is the rain coming from?

  • Took time for my kids to read to me a little before bed time.
  • My edginess/grumpiness seems to be wearing off ( Not quite sure where it comes from– maybe time pressures/life pressures/ maybe internal pressure to get more things done OR maybe its withdrawal symptoms — I get edgy like that when I attempt to cut out my caffeine! )
  • Took time to see the sunset
  • Emotionally, I seem to be a little “happier”/ accepting with where my life is right now  =)
  • Sat down in  the hammock for the second time this summer.

The social media network hiatus continues…

Thanks for checking out my blog today.  If you are joining me on the 2 week hiatus from your most accessed social media networks then email me how it’s going for you or comment.

Have a Great week !

Don’t get stuck on the sand

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Don't get stuck on the sand

I can see things I would like to change. I can wish for things to be different. ….but unless I make changes and begin reaching toward those dreams I will FOREVER stand on the beach and stare at the water. Those dreams & hopes will not come to be without making daily changes and steps toward them. Begin today toward the life you dream.

Wanna talk about#1,oh my me my—NOT!!!! Intro Kymberlee blogs Day 5

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13) I am awestruck by nature ….  The sunset, the sunrise, the ocean, the mountains, a peaceful lake, a rushing river, watching the stars, listening to the crickets,  Hot summer sun, Cool Spring Breeze, Crisp Fall nights , the Thunder and Lightning as it lights the sky, the beauty of snow begins to fall in the winter or ice cycles hanging on the trees…  The beauty of nature captivates me.

14) I love great coffee!!!!  I am not a “coffee-snob” but I enjoy a smooth medium to dark roast coffee.   =)    Even more than the coffee I enjoy great conversations over coffee or tea.

15) I wanna talk about me –  Wanna talk about I –  Wanna talk about number one – Oh my me my — NOT!!!!!!  While I look forward to this personal journal blog experience – I find even this intro completely uncomfortable.  I enjoy sharing experiences, anecdotes and discussions but to sit and tell things about myself has been …hmmm well let’s just say- I am THANKFUL today is the last day of the introduction!!  Whew!! (I really wanted to bail about day 2)  I have trouble filling out the “about” sections on profiles and I can’t tell you the number of times I thought about starting one of those twitter #30thingsaboutme posts series ….I stop by #6 because it’s not really my forte’.  I don’t like to talk so much about “me” … I love hearing about others and sharing in their journeys. What a LONELY and Sad life it would be- to be the ONLY person – to live in my own little universe!  So this blog is about living, family, friends, life experiences, etc. I hope that it will inspire, encourage,  and maybe even brighten a day or too along the way.
Thanks for sticking with me during the intro to kymberlee blogs…

If you missed a day and want to catch days 1-4 of the intros you can find the links on the main blog page!
Wishing you a Great Remainder of the week!
~Kymberlee

kymberlee blogs … (day 4)

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10) I am not where I hoped to be. Truth is things happen in life that you can’t control or change …expectations and dreams sometimes get dashed regardless of your best efforts. But NEVER lose hope/NEVER stop dreaming. Count each one of your blessings and trust God to bring good out of EVEN the most Chaotic upsets to your life. Realize also, that the dreams you felt a loss for were not as “grand” as you once thought. That having those chapters in your life close, open up new doors and new possibilities you otherwise would never have seen.

11) I don’t like religion but I LOVE God. To me, religion is what man does attempting to make rules to try to earn righteousness or set themselves as judges of others.  I have come to see many times over in my lifetime that one can obey man-made “religious” rules and yet be completely void of the love of God. I am a Christian/Jesus follower. I believe that through Jesus’s death on the cross I am justified (by his grace) and nothing I “do” could ever achieve salvation. I believe that my relationship with Christ is more than a set of rules….that each day is a journey to know God better. My faith is now a big part of my life and hopefully it reflects in all that I do/say. I don’t force my faith/Christianity on anyone, but will gladly share it. This blog is more of a personal blog – If you are interested in it, I share more of my faith journey in alternate blog : http://studiofelicityinspirations.wordpress.com/

12) I am not the type that has to be “in a relationship” to know their worth or to validate themselves. I tend to be a bit independent when necessary. Still, I love to be treated like a lady. I guess somewhere inside many of us ladies there is that hope that maybe… just maybe… there are some “Prince Charming”s out there. And we wonder could… “forever & ever,amen/ happily ever after”… still exist? (Not that we expect princes to be perfect nor the relationship to be without its challenges)

Thanks for sticking with me on the introduction to the new blog. This is day 4 of 5… If you want to check out the previous snippets, follow the links on the blog page for each previous day’s posts…

Hope you have a great day!