Words can be Worthless or Words can be Golden

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For some people Words come Cheap!  Sadly, some people can “Blah, Blah, Blah” words all day long and never mean a single thing they say.  Their words either fill space or are merely a means to an end.

Empty word after empty word, their conversation, statements, and promises come to mean ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.  No matter how beautiful, sweet, or hopeful the words sound, if the person behind them doesn’t have the intention to follow through or can’t be trusted, then the words are worthless.

I know there will be miscommunications, or facts mistaken (from time to time) after all, we are human.  On occasion, perhaps something will prevent us from being able to carry out the actions to make our words true.  However, these instances should be seldom; an anomaly – not constant.

Don’t make promises you don’t mean to keep. Don’t say you will do something with NO intention of standing behind your words.

A person who is known to be true to their words doesn’t even have to use “I promise” – the recipient can know, because of the person’s character, that the words/agreements will be kept.

It is up to you (each person) to decide whether to be a person of your word.  Overall, your own actions will determine whether your words are worthless or valuable.

Part of the Things I want My Kids to Know Series…

There is Hope….. TIWMK2K post # 2

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(Second post in the series )

At the top of my list of things I want my kids to know….

No matter how old you are

No matter what you have done or haven’t done,

You are never— Hear This please –  You are NEVER so far that the Love of God can’t reach you. He loves you  EVEN when you are at your Darkest, Lowest  point.  He knows your deepest darkest secrets, and your every thought.  And still God loves you!!!  He loves you so much that he made a way to have a relationship with him.

 “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.  For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.” John 3:16-18 KJV

There is hope – If you are hearing, reading this,  or thinking on this – There is hope!  God doesn’t mind what kind or brand of clothes you have on.   God doesn’t mind whether you are poor or if you are rich.  God doesn’t mind  if you are famous, popular, a loner, or independent.  God doesn’t mind if you are royalty or homeless.  God doesn’t mind if you have no tattoos or if you have millions of them …. God doesn’t mind if you have no piercings or multiple piercings.  God doesn’t mind if you drive a BMW or if you take the bus or if you have no transportation.  God doesn’t mind if you are the CEO of a company or if you have no  no current occupation. Regardless of externals,   We are ALL Equals at the foot of the cross. God cares deeply about you!  The external things do not help or prevent you from knowing the love of God. God  sees your heart. He loved you before you were even born – He loves you now – He wants to have a relationship with you.  He wants to adopt you into his family – he wants you to become the sons and daughters of the King of Kings.

“For we ourselves were also once foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving various lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful and hating one another. But when the kindness and the love of God our Savior toward man appeared, not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to His mercy He saved us, through the washing of regeneration and renewing of the Holy Spirit, whom He poured out on us abundantly through Jesus Christ our Savior,  that having been justified by His grace we should become heirs according to the hope of eternal life.” Titus 3: 3-7 NKJV

There WILL inevitably be arduous days and/or seasons in your life  There will be things that you have to deal with that you would rather not.  Salvation, and being a Christ follower does not eliminate pain, hurt, tragedy, sadness, grief or trials from your life but it means that you can have assurance that you don’t ever face it alone. God promises to never leave or forsake those who have a saving relationship with him.

We are hard-pressed on every side, yet not crushed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed—” 2 Corinthians 4:8-9 NKJV “Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.” Hebrews 13:5-6 KJV

Knowing God personally (not just knowing of him) and knowing his unchanging character allows you to rest in these promises and have faith and peace even in difficulties.

I want my kids to know that God knows each of them – the good and the bad and he loves them.  I want them to know that no matter the depth of pain or difficult path they can reach for God and find hope that this world can not offer.

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There will be Days like That ……

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Momma Said There’d Be Days Like This

Some days it’s a struggle – just to keep your chin up! 

You know those types of days….

Feeling under the weather,
There’s a growing list of things that need to be done,
Add in a couple extra stressors, arguing children, frustrating circumstances at work,

delays to well thought out plans, general bumps in the road, minor car problems,

and a schedule that was meant for

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                   SuperMom (Which I most definitely am NOT)!

I’ve a had few of these kind of days…

and it builds up until it spills out…..

While I can be a bit quiet when I first meet people, I love to socialize, hang out and chat almost anytime.
But one day a few weeks back,  I could tell my frustration and worries were about to overflow…. ¯\(°_o)/¯

Oh my goodness, I wished I had a warning light or sign on my head that activated when I have hit this point of exasperation…. for the sole reason of letting anyone who may venture up and start conversation to know that I am out of sorts.

maybe …A NEON FLASHING BILLBOARD That  READS :  WARNING!!!    CAUTION !!! —-  APPROACH At Your Own Risk BECAUSE TODAY – I AM NOT MYSELF- CONSIDER YOURSELF WARNED! Please don’t hold anything I say against me! 

 Notice – I am NOT acting/reacting as my optimistic self today- Beware you may hear excessive complaining or whining (which is not my normal character) – PLEEEAAASSEE DON’T ASK ME HOW I AM TODAY — I REALLY DON’T WANT MY WORDS TO SPILL OUT AND RUIN YOUR DAY!!

With my energy depleted, try as I might to hold in my frustration at my week, sadly, I was no match 😦  .
The words came barreling on out bombarding my thoughtful friend who just happen to ask – “How are you today?”

To my Dear Friend,  I AM SOOOO VERY SORRY That I INUNDATED you with barrage of my minor problems at the time. EVEN MORE, I  SINCERELY THANK YOU FOR YOUR PATIENCE, UNDERSTANDING AND FOR JUST BEING A LISTENING EAR. 

Did complaining or whining about my week make any part of the problem change? – NOPE !!!
Did I feel better? Not Really.

There ARE times it is good to vent or talk out what’s bothering you. However in my case – there wasn’t a means of a solution, it was just an ALL OUT “here’s what I have going on in my little world waaahh session”.

Most days, I try to stick to… “If you can’t say something nice, then don’t say nothin’ at all” even in regard life circumstances and frustrations. Simply because there is already enough negative in the world.  

 

Honestly though,  If you live in the REAL world and not some imaginary world where everything comes up roses and sunshine…
We ALL  have “THOSE DAYS, THOSE WEEKS, and sometimes THAT KIND OF YEAR”!
No matter how strong, optimistic, independent,and prepared you try to be, you will still encounter days like this.

How do you deal with it?  Here is a strategy that can help through those times…

(remember it doesn’t mean those difficult days won’t happen. The strategy just helps keep us from getting STUCK there)

 

  • If you happen to break out into a complaining /whining session – Fine, No Big Deal!…. we’ve all been there—->Just don’t stay there!!! – Speak it, get it out, and put it behind you. Don’t Dwell on It and continue every future conversation about it.

    • Don’t let your mind stay in the negative.– You don’t have to Fake or Force the positive, just stay out of the ” ohhh poor me” thoughts. When they pop in your mind distinctively choose to push them out and focus on other things instead.

    • Count your blessings– you’ll find that they DO outweigh the bad (if you really count them all).

    • Take a walk – Exercise and fresh air does wonders for your mental state.

    • Put on your headphones or turn up the music  (in your car or at home).  SIng ~Dance~ Jam~ to your favorite music.

    • Read Something (preferably something uplifting/encouraging)

    • VERY VERY IMPORTANT—- Do NOT get on Facebook – when you’re feeling frustrated and depleted it’s not the time to check the timeline to see how “great and nearly perfect” everyone else’s lives APPEAR to be

    • Do something nice for someone else (Random act of kindness)

    • Call it a day (or night) and realize it’s time to break away – it’s time to get some rest and re-energize tomorrow is a new day.

Sometimes, it will continue to be a tough go for a while.

  • Surround your self with good friends and family or find a support group.
  • Spend time with God and reading scripture. Especially those scriptures that remind us of his faithfulness, mercy, promises,and attributes of        God.
  • During those life seasons, it’s a matter of putting one foot in front of the other, keep pushing through and persevering—         just keep going.

As for me – I am gratefully back to being myself ….

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Putting that one foot in front of the other and humming a cheerful tune.

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Through A Valley

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Near to still waters

I read the words then re-read the words over and over mulling over them in my mind.

“In the valley of the sheep, David learned to depend on God. God’s presence, provision, and power accompanied David wherever he went and people could see it.” … “Maybe you’re in your own valley of sheep right now. Maybe you think you are going unnoticed and your assignment is not what you want it to be. Just remember we must go through the valley, where we humble ourselves before God, before we can go out for God…”  –  Derwin L. Gray in his book   Limitless Life: You Are More Than Your Past When God Holds Your Future 

Had David not spent time in the valley with the sheep and experiencing what God had for him in the valley would he have become the courageous person who faced the giant? I am sure that he gained wisdom in the valley that he would draw from years later when he was king.  We can all take courage that our God is infinite and awesome exceeding human expectation. Now, not all of us will be king, nor will we all take our place in history for slaying a philistine giant. However we do have dreams God has placed in our hearts and we all have/will have valleys where we can humble ourselves, drawing closer to God, gaining wisdom and experience.  We don’t know what the future holds for any of us but we can be sure of one who does. 

A few years ago, I began a weight loss journey through eating and fitness modifications.  My weight loss in less than a year was about 130+ pounds.  From that point I continued to learn from many wonderful trainers and friends more about nutrition and fitness.  I began to realize I had a passion for helping and encouraging others to pursue fitness and health.  I enrolled in a program to become a personal trainer.

Then my path was diverted. My children experienced some health issues, my finances tightened further, and I began to inexplicably gain some weight. I had not made changes in my eating nor alterations to my fitness endeavors but I was gaining weight and becoming totally frustrated.   In total I gained almost 30 pounds.  We tested for a variety of possible explainable health causes to weight gain – but Nothing.  Nothing that is except stress.  Stress, worry, and anxiety have repercussions on a body as well as mind.

As I sat in my frustration I also looked over my life – Wow I had become COMPLETELY out of Balance. My eating was very rigid (more of an extremely restrictive diet than a plan I could live with the rest of my life).  My kids were great about my gym time and encouraged me.  The gym had a daycare the kids could hang out while I worked out which is great. However I was always on-the-go hurrying here to there.  Yes they saw the value “I” placed on fitness and being healthy but for my family was I helping them to be active and healthy?  There was way too much emphasis on the “I”.  Where was our quality time?  Was my life teaching them proper perspective? Please don’t read this wrong… I believe in hitting the gym, working out and staying fit.  And I DO believe everybody, parents included (especially us single parents) need some “me” time –and gym time is a great stress reliever for me.  But I had taken it beyond “me” time to an EXTREME- and it needed to be adjusted.

I paused in my pursuit of being a personal trainer – I felt inept.

This year was the breaking year for me; with better balance I began to again pursue my fitness and health goals with my kids along side. Instead of pursuing self –glorification, I choose now to seek after honoring God more through my fitness and nutrition endeavors. In stewardship, I want to take care of the body I have been given. I still hit a gym when I can- and I work out at home. I’ve been able to shed many of the pounds I had regained.  Moreover, I am eating more balanced and living life a bit more fully.

A couple months back, someone asked me whether I ever finished the personal training certification – I dropped my head and said “no”.  In my heart I still had the calling, the passion to encourage and help others but because of the set backs I had allowed myself to be defeated.  I had just a couple weeks left to finish the course but had no intention to do so – self doubt and fear can be very crippling. A few days later, my daughter and I were discussing the personal training.  I rattled my excuses… my gaining a some of the lost pounds back and my frustration with it,  my desire to be closer to my goals, and every other reason I could think that would cause me to fail.  This child is my cheerleader in every sense of the word it is a gift God has blessed her with. In her sweet way she can speak words that hit me directly in the heart.  “Mom, I guess I don’t understand….Don’t other people have the same struggles?  Don’t they get frustrated?  But then that means you “get it” – you’ve been there and come through it… Right??  You can understand and help them…”     This mom just had to stand there with her mouth open- WOW!!!  Why did it take my daughter to speak it for me to see it?

So one week before the expiration of the personal training course I still had to pass a few more chapter tests, the finals, and work studies in hopes to get the certification.  Again, God blessed and saw me through it successfully.  The last piece, a CPR/AED certificate, has to be in place for me to be able to say that I have my completed ISSA Personal Trainer Certification and that class is scheduled for this upcoming Saturday. While I know, I am still a work in progress – (but aren’t we all?)-  I am excited to see what the future holds and very thankful that the dream he placed was not allowed to just fall to the wayside to later become a regret or “what if”. I am hopeful, maybe God can use me, to inspire and encourage others as they face similar struggles in their lives.

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Then and Now

 

While I CANNOT say my venture through this valley the last couple of years has been pleasant or fun, I CAN say it was humbling and needed. I can look back and say that the trip through the valley made me come to the realization that I didn’t have all the answers and had absolutely no control.  It required me to put away pride,(that had seeped in and taken hold) look up, and place it all in God’s hands, seeking him for direction and answers. Today, with complete sincerity of heart, I can tell you – I am thankful for the journey through this valley. I am thankful for what I am learning everyday.

 

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Blaring through the Silence (prose)

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A flood of memories from throughout my life

Random surges of emotion –

Joy, Courage, Awe, Fear, Strength, Frailty, …

A tidal wave of dreams and hopes

Streams of thoughts meander through

My pen dances across the page yet

My blogs lie in silence, comatose

 

Verbose cascades continue unabated,

Incomplete, raw, fresh and real

Bombarding the white abyss

Merely chronicled

My words reflect from the page

Yet my mind measures, it contemplates.

 

My heart, my expressions are sincere, genuine

My thoughts honest and candid

Words not to be released upon the world unrestricted

However in due time with reflection and kind consideration

Expounding on the thoughts that sporadically

Blare through the silence

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Quiet moments

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As I awakened in the pre-dawn hours my house was in a complete state of silence. A blissful resting state.  In a home filled with activity and two very verbose / vibrant kids, silence is not something we have often. Even the central heat and our pets were cooperative.  Complete stillness.
A variety of memories came to mind…. there have been times that silence was deafening, sad, and weary to endure.  There have been many mornings where being awake at this early hour was in order to comfort and care for a child sick with fever or flu. Then there have been those times where sitting by a family member or child’s bedside in a hospital filled with the busyness and variety noises like beeps, clicks, whirrs, etc. I longed for quiet or at least the sounds of my own home.   None of the previous scenarios apply to today. 🙂   Instead, this morning…..there was a beauty and peace to the silence surrounding my family.  Just quiet …. faint rhythms of my children breathing as they dream sweetly and all in my lil world seems almost surreal.  I am very thankful to enjoy these moments.

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Don’t throw the Facebook out with the bath water!!!

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Don’t Throw Facebook Out with the Bath Water!

Whew, finished with this hiatus …Thankfully!!!

For those of you who thought I would say Facebook and social networks are “evil” and a waste of time or you should boycott them…then you will be disappointed in this post! ….

I TRULY Miss my social networks and the interaction with all the friends that I don’t get to see very often because of our varying schedules or the miles between us. Social networks and technology have become staples in my life and both have wonderful benefits.
What was that old saying??…dont throw the baby out with the bath water– …. Don’t throw Facebook out with the bath water either…. That is the perspective I have about social networking. It can be great way to connect and interact. Yes- it has it’s dangers and it’s hazards. Yes- if you let it, your social networking can become ALL Consuming and even detrimental to your Social Skills outside of the net.

I DO NOT TRUST NOR BELIEVE EVERYTHING I read on a social network or for that matter even on websites.   Those I meet through social sites are not on the Blind Trust list because I find there is a “false sense of security” that comes along with technological network socializing.  You may “feel” like you know someone or they may manipulate their interactions so that you really have no clue as to their true intentions.

I also believe there  are a lot of good people but BEWARE there are some people who are not at all who they say they are out there too. Considering this fact, it especially concerns me that many young people today, are so revealing about information that could put them in danger. I view Facebook and other social networks as a tool to be utilized.  The networks are not  inherently good nor bad… they just “are”  and I realize just like any other utility/tool they can be wielded in the hands of a user intending it for good or one who uses it for nefarious reasons.

What did I learn from my two-week hiatus…..It was a good  learning experience.

I had become quite accustomed to daily checking in on various social networks. Not “addicted”, par se’, but it appears more because of habit and out of sincerity of heart that I utilized the  networks more frequently than I realized. Social networking is convenient and gives me a means of  keeping in touch with friends near and far regardless of our busy schedules.

I was amazed at the amount of RE-FOCUSED time I had and the productivity I was able to generate with that time while was on hiatus.

I also found during this down time that I spent quite a bit more time listening….to my kids, to music, to my family, to friends…. (which is something I want to do more often)

I need to be more mindful and intentional of the time I am spending on-line and set limits so that I can enjoy both the assets of technology and social networking as well as the day-to-day practice of Living in Each Moment. Going forward I will guard my time more wisely by setting reasonable limits and staying focused on my purpose for being on-line. Whether I am logging into a social network or checking the headlines, it is essential that I keep a clear focus and not meander or “chase rabbits” …otherwise what is intended as a quick moment on the phone/computer can all too quickly become hours taking precious time away from other areas of my life

Additionally, I need to be making sure to allocate time in my schedule to relax and enjoy my downtime a bit more. On occasion I may take a hiatus again, to make sure my perspective is still in-line. I find it very helpful and healthful (mentally and physically) to UNPLUG for incremental breaks because it seems to be during those times life becomes most clear to me.
Thanks for reading 🙂

For those of you not familiar with the idiom about the bath water, you can check this link at your leisure… http://www.wisegeek.org/what-does-throwing-the-baby-out-with-the-bath-water-mean.htm