Don’t throw the Facebook out with the bath water!!!

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Don’t Throw Facebook Out with the Bath Water!

Whew, finished with this hiatus …Thankfully!!!

For those of you who thought I would say Facebook and social networks are “evil” and a waste of time or you should boycott them…then you will be disappointed in this post! ….

I TRULY Miss my social networks and the interaction with all the friends that I don’t get to see very often because of our varying schedules or the miles between us. Social networks and technology have become staples in my life and both have wonderful benefits.
What was that old saying??…dont throw the baby out with the bath water– …. Don’t throw Facebook out with the bath water either…. That is the perspective I have about social networking. It can be great way to connect and interact. Yes- it has it’s dangers and it’s hazards. Yes- if you let it, your social networking can become ALL Consuming and even detrimental to your Social Skills outside of the net.

I DO NOT TRUST NOR BELIEVE EVERYTHING I read on a social network or for that matter even on websites.   Those I meet through social sites are not on the Blind Trust list because I find there is a “false sense of security” that comes along with technological network socializing.  You may “feel” like you know someone or they may manipulate their interactions so that you really have no clue as to their true intentions.

I also believe there  are a lot of good people but BEWARE there are some people who are not at all who they say they are out there too. Considering this fact, it especially concerns me that many young people today, are so revealing about information that could put them in danger. I view Facebook and other social networks as a tool to be utilized.  The networks are not  inherently good nor bad… they just “are”  and I realize just like any other utility/tool they can be wielded in the hands of a user intending it for good or one who uses it for nefarious reasons.

What did I learn from my two-week hiatus…..It was a good  learning experience.

I had become quite accustomed to daily checking in on various social networks. Not “addicted”, par se’, but it appears more because of habit and out of sincerity of heart that I utilized the  networks more frequently than I realized. Social networking is convenient and gives me a means of  keeping in touch with friends near and far regardless of our busy schedules.

I was amazed at the amount of RE-FOCUSED time I had and the productivity I was able to generate with that time while was on hiatus.

I also found during this down time that I spent quite a bit more time listening….to my kids, to music, to my family, to friends…. (which is something I want to do more often)

I need to be more mindful and intentional of the time I am spending on-line and set limits so that I can enjoy both the assets of technology and social networking as well as the day-to-day practice of Living in Each Moment. Going forward I will guard my time more wisely by setting reasonable limits and staying focused on my purpose for being on-line. Whether I am logging into a social network or checking the headlines, it is essential that I keep a clear focus and not meander or “chase rabbits” …otherwise what is intended as a quick moment on the phone/computer can all too quickly become hours taking precious time away from other areas of my life

Additionally, I need to be making sure to allocate time in my schedule to relax and enjoy my downtime a bit more. On occasion I may take a hiatus again, to make sure my perspective is still in-line. I find it very helpful and healthful (mentally and physically) to UNPLUG for incremental breaks because it seems to be during those times life becomes most clear to me.
Thanks for reading 🙂

For those of you not familiar with the idiom about the bath water, you can check this link at your leisure… http://www.wisegeek.org/what-does-throwing-the-baby-out-with-the-bath-water-mean.htm

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Are You Addicted?? Social Network Break Challenge!

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Are You Addicted to Facebook??  Am I Addicted to Facebook?

Could I be an addict?

Could I be an addict?

Could I be a…   a  Facebook Addict?  a Pinterest Fanatic?  a Social Net Site Junkie?   an Aficionada of all things social media related?  Twitterpated with Tweets?  a Smartphone Media Network Enthusiast?

How do you KNOW if you are addicted?  Do people EVER SEE their addictions for what they are?  Are social sites REALLY a “drug” of choice for a lot of people today??  Is it easier to see others addiction AND  could I be blind to my own???

Am I on-line more than I realize?  Do I lose track of time when I am on a social site? Do I hit the on-line community to avoid less liked tasks and down-time in my life? How do I interact with my Facebook friends when we meet face-to-face?  How often pick up the cell or click over to Facebook? Twitter? Instagram? Pinterest?

What do I post?  How many pins a day?  How often do I post status updates?   Am I addicted to the “Likes” or Re-Tweets/Re-Pins (acceptance of others)?

Sure, there ARE good aspects and benefits to social media. But I must question… do they steal my time and attention from the life I have been given?  After all, I am only given so much time in a lifetime…how much is being thrown into the cyber world?  Could I be doing more constructive things with my time?

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 WHAT ARE SIGNS OF SOCIAL NETWORK ADDICTION???

 After scanning numerous articles here are few things that COULD mean you are addicted

  •  Do you sign in to any of the social media when you first get up and before you turn in?
  • Do you spend more than an hour each day on Social media?
  • Do you judge others by their Facebook profile/pages, Instagram Images, Pinterest Pins, Twitter Profile?
  • Do you post even once each day a status update?
  • Do you feel anxiety when someone doesn’t respond to your post, message, chat, comment, or other interaction?
  • Do you feel the need to add more and more friends/follows/etc?
  • Do you feel anxious if you have not logged in and read feeds from your friends/follows?
  • Are you concerned if you don’t log into Pinterest you might miss the best Fashion, Recipe, Quote, DIY,   Home/Garden, or Photography Pins?
  • Do you change/update your profile or pictures more than necessary?
  • Do you compare your REAL life with the “cyber-life” of others?
  • Do you check or update your Social Media (Facebook/Instagram/Twitter, et al)  while you are out with friends/family?
  • When asked how many friends you have do you automatically list the number on Facebook?
  • Do you daily refer to something in conversation that you saw on Facebook/Twitter/Pinterest?

Hmmmm….. Still not sure?  Here is a short survey http://theoatmeal.com/quiz/facebook_addict

I think the only way a person will truly KNOW if he/she has an addiction to social media is to take a hiatus from it.

So, Let’s see HOW addicted I really am… Here’s the experiment I’ve decided  to take a hiatus from my most accessed social media networks  ….  I will post my blog (which updates on Facebook and other social media profiles automatically) but otherwise I will cut out my use of Facebook/Pinterest/Twitter/for the next couple of weeks. I will not be logging in directly to these sites at all.   I am CONVINCED that I am Not an addict!! So this should be easy-  Right?!?! —- =)

Are you addicted?  Are you Unsure if you are a Facebook/Twitter/Instagram/Pinterest Addict?  How about your kids?  Why not Challenge your children as well to go without using their social media for 2 full weeks!!

if anybody else wants to join in on this FACEBOOK /SOCIAL NETWORK BREAK CHALLENGE – let me know you are in… email me ,or respond on my blog page  (you can comment/like on my Facebook , ReTweet or Favorite on Twitter  but remember  I won’t be logging in to respond) But anyone is welcome to join in.  It’s a TWO-WEEK SOCIAL NETWORK BREAK and it begins when you sign on.   I am interested to hear from you – let me know how it goes with your challenge!  🙂

Taking a Break from Facebook

Taking a Break from Facebook