Words can be Worthless or Words can be Golden

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For some people Words come Cheap!  Sadly, some people can “Blah, Blah, Blah” words all day long and never mean a single thing they say.  Their words either fill space or are merely a means to an end.

Empty word after empty word, their conversation, statements, and promises come to mean ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.  No matter how beautiful, sweet, or hopeful the words sound, if the person behind them doesn’t have the intention to follow through or can’t be trusted, then the words are worthless.

I know there will be miscommunications, or facts mistaken (from time to time) after all, we are human.  On occasion, perhaps something will prevent us from being able to carry out the actions to make our words true.  However, these instances should be seldom; an anomaly – not constant.

Don’t make promises you don’t mean to keep. Don’t say you will do something with NO intention of standing behind your words.

A person who is known to be true to their words doesn’t even have to use “I promise” – the recipient can know, because of the person’s character, that the words/agreements will be kept.

It is up to you (each person) to decide whether to be a person of your word.  Overall, your own actions will determine whether your words are worthless or valuable.

Part of the Things I want My Kids to Know Series…
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There is Hope….. TIWMK2K post # 2

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(Second post in the series )

At the top of my list of things I want my kids to know….

No matter how old you are

No matter what you have done or haven’t done,

You are never— Hear This please –  You are NEVER so far that the Love of God can’t reach you. He loves you  EVEN when you are at your Darkest, Lowest  point.  He knows your deepest darkest secrets, and your every thought.  And still God loves you!!!  He loves you so much that he made a way to have a relationship with him.

 “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.  For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.” John 3:16-18 KJV

There is hope – If you are hearing, reading this,  or thinking on this – There is hope!  God doesn’t mind what kind or brand of clothes you have on.   God doesn’t mind whether you are poor or if you are rich.  God doesn’t mind  if you are famous, popular, a loner, or independent.  God doesn’t mind if you are royalty or homeless.  God doesn’t mind if you have no tattoos or if you have millions of them …. God doesn’t mind if you have no piercings or multiple piercings.  God doesn’t mind if you drive a BMW or if you take the bus or if you have no transportation.  God doesn’t mind if you are the CEO of a company or if you have no  no current occupation. Regardless of externals,   We are ALL Equals at the foot of the cross. God cares deeply about you!  The external things do not help or prevent you from knowing the love of God. God  sees your heart. He loved you before you were even born – He loves you now – He wants to have a relationship with you.  He wants to adopt you into his family – he wants you to become the sons and daughters of the King of Kings.

“For we ourselves were also once foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving various lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful and hating one another. But when the kindness and the love of God our Savior toward man appeared, not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to His mercy He saved us, through the washing of regeneration and renewing of the Holy Spirit, whom He poured out on us abundantly through Jesus Christ our Savior,  that having been justified by His grace we should become heirs according to the hope of eternal life.” Titus 3: 3-7 NKJV

There WILL inevitably be arduous days and/or seasons in your life  There will be things that you have to deal with that you would rather not.  Salvation, and being a Christ follower does not eliminate pain, hurt, tragedy, sadness, grief or trials from your life but it means that you can have assurance that you don’t ever face it alone. God promises to never leave or forsake those who have a saving relationship with him.

We are hard-pressed on every side, yet not crushed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed—” 2 Corinthians 4:8-9 NKJV “Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.” Hebrews 13:5-6 KJV

Knowing God personally (not just knowing of him) and knowing his unchanging character allows you to rest in these promises and have faith and peace even in difficulties.

I want my kids to know that God knows each of them – the good and the bad and he loves them.  I want them to know that no matter the depth of pain or difficult path they can reach for God and find hope that this world can not offer.

Rainbow in Tuckerman Ravine Credit: blog.nhstateparks.org

Things I want my Kids to Know – You Are Loved

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You are Loved More Than You Could Ever Know….

This is the beginning post in my bi-monthly series of posts …”Things I Want My Kids to Know”- sharing insights, life lessons, and thoughts that I hope to pass along.

As my first blog post in this series it is very appropriate to let you know that I have loved you before you were born and I will love you always.

From your first heartbeats, to your first cries, to your first steps, to your funny expressions, your first words, your giggles, your adorable smiles, the sparkles in your eyes, your enthusiasm … Oh okay I’m Mom so I could go on FOREVER – I just love EVERYTHING  about you 🙂   You are each so very unique – God only made one Lakota~ and only one Nokona~.

Lakota, you were my first, and with you, everything was new. I had no idea what to expect, what to do as a mom,.  Oh,  its exciting, fun, frightful, and adventuresome to be a mom for the first time.   You were my beautiful “Little Britches” from the beginning… always the morning baby, bubbly & always smiling, sweet right to the core.  Nokona, my second born, I was excited to find out that we were going to have a little boy.  My handsome, “Little Bear”,  so kind & loving, your hugs that would melt anyone, always the curious one, you take everything in (more than most people realize).  I even love your night owl tendencies.  Your sissy was a big help when you were born but having two precious little ones to care for was new territory and still quite the adventure.  You have both grown into wonderful children. I have been very blessed to be your mother.

 I don’t know if it is even possible to describe a love a parent has for a child.   Moreover, it is even less possible for a youth/child to comprehend its depth. 

I want you to know that I don’t expect you to be perfect.  I know that you will make decisions that will thrill me and some choices that I may disapprove, as you get older; however, my love is not contingent on your actions.  I will ALWAYS love you.  There is nothing that you could ever do that I would cause me to stop loving you.

That being said, I am not perfect. I apologize upfront for my misgivings/failings but I will do the best I can to be the best mom I know how to be.   Love does not mean that you get everything you want – Quite the contrary. BECAUSE I love you, I WILL tell you “No” sometimes.  I will give you rules and expect you to follow them. 

I will always be your loudest cheerleader.  I will always encourage excelling and helping each of you in any way possible toward your goals.  Foremost, I will be your parent.  I will put every effort into equipping and shaping you toward being the best Lakota and Nokona you can be as you grow into adulthood.  I am always here if you need to vent, to talk, to reason.  However, I won’t always have the answers to every problem life throws our way, but God does and we can trust him!

Nokona & Lakota I love you to the moon and back times infinity (=


I love your…

Energy             Hugs                Mommy Spa Nights                Smiles              Chattiness              our walks/runs/hikes

 Those crazy things you say                to hear you Sing          Charisma         Helpfulness

“Shopachocic” Ways               Remembrances of “Later-ago”

 your “I love you Mommy”        Focus            bright minds

 Compassion                kindness          thoughtfulness            love for our Bible Lessons           hugs             contagious giggles        your love for animals & nature

 Inquisitive thinking  & mind-boggling questions                love for sports and activity                 friendliness                         the bright sparkle in your eyes

I love the way you set your mind and go after it

I love the way you are driven and don’t give up easily      

I love the way you are close to each other and look after each other

 I am so very thankful for every moment!

 Love Always!

Mom

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Don’t throw the Facebook out with the bath water!!!

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Don’t Throw Facebook Out with the Bath Water!

Whew, finished with this hiatus …Thankfully!!!

For those of you who thought I would say Facebook and social networks are “evil” and a waste of time or you should boycott them…then you will be disappointed in this post! ….

I TRULY Miss my social networks and the interaction with all the friends that I don’t get to see very often because of our varying schedules or the miles between us. Social networks and technology have become staples in my life and both have wonderful benefits.
What was that old saying??…dont throw the baby out with the bath water– …. Don’t throw Facebook out with the bath water either…. That is the perspective I have about social networking. It can be great way to connect and interact. Yes- it has it’s dangers and it’s hazards. Yes- if you let it, your social networking can become ALL Consuming and even detrimental to your Social Skills outside of the net.

I DO NOT TRUST NOR BELIEVE EVERYTHING I read on a social network or for that matter even on websites.   Those I meet through social sites are not on the Blind Trust list because I find there is a “false sense of security” that comes along with technological network socializing.  You may “feel” like you know someone or they may manipulate their interactions so that you really have no clue as to their true intentions.

I also believe there  are a lot of good people but BEWARE there are some people who are not at all who they say they are out there too. Considering this fact, it especially concerns me that many young people today, are so revealing about information that could put them in danger. I view Facebook and other social networks as a tool to be utilized.  The networks are not  inherently good nor bad… they just “are”  and I realize just like any other utility/tool they can be wielded in the hands of a user intending it for good or one who uses it for nefarious reasons.

What did I learn from my two-week hiatus…..It was a good  learning experience.

I had become quite accustomed to daily checking in on various social networks. Not “addicted”, par se’, but it appears more because of habit and out of sincerity of heart that I utilized the  networks more frequently than I realized. Social networking is convenient and gives me a means of  keeping in touch with friends near and far regardless of our busy schedules.

I was amazed at the amount of RE-FOCUSED time I had and the productivity I was able to generate with that time while was on hiatus.

I also found during this down time that I spent quite a bit more time listening….to my kids, to music, to my family, to friends…. (which is something I want to do more often)

I need to be more mindful and intentional of the time I am spending on-line and set limits so that I can enjoy both the assets of technology and social networking as well as the day-to-day practice of Living in Each Moment. Going forward I will guard my time more wisely by setting reasonable limits and staying focused on my purpose for being on-line. Whether I am logging into a social network or checking the headlines, it is essential that I keep a clear focus and not meander or “chase rabbits” …otherwise what is intended as a quick moment on the phone/computer can all too quickly become hours taking precious time away from other areas of my life

Additionally, I need to be making sure to allocate time in my schedule to relax and enjoy my downtime a bit more. On occasion I may take a hiatus again, to make sure my perspective is still in-line. I find it very helpful and healthful (mentally and physically) to UNPLUG for incremental breaks because it seems to be during those times life becomes most clear to me.
Thanks for reading 🙂

For those of you not familiar with the idiom about the bath water, you can check this link at your leisure… http://www.wisegeek.org/what-does-throwing-the-baby-out-with-the-bath-water-mean.htm

Day 3 Kymberlee Blogs Intro

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7) It’s not easy to be a single parent…its very difficult to be mom/dad/coach/comforter/disciplinarian/counselor/ etc ….complete parental unit in one human being all the time.   Although the rewards are double, so is the responsibility of my decisions.  As a side note:  There is so much talk/ many written articles about single parent homes and children of single parent homes -however I am a firm believer that children “raised” (Not children raising themselves) by a caring devoted single parent have NO disadvantage!!

8) I love my children and am very blessed to have the privilege to be their mom.  Although there are days when my energy and patience are waning– Not a single day comes that I am not thankful for EVERY moment (even the gross cleaning up sickness moments, or tearful sad moments each family endures, or the grumpy pushing every one of moms buttons moments) I get with my children. I cherish all the moments and enjoy each joyful/fun ones all the more.

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9) It’s not easy being transparent to the world…. I thought journal blogging would be easy. For me, it’s not so difficult to write, but some things are difficult to say out loud (especially to the blog world).  Thoughts come to mind and you sometimes have to deal with emotional and life baggage you may have that you didn’t even realize.   It has definitely taken me out of my “comfort zone” even at this early part of the journaling/bogging, but by the same token it is freeing.  I choose not to write “to please” others, yet deep down you know there is a risk to putting yourself out there.  There are those friends/acquaintances you could unintentionally offend/alienate and those who will judge you. I choose to be real –  so I must say Que Sera Sera (What will be – Will be)

It’s day 3 of 5 on the Introduction series of my blog- Thanks again for joining me.  If you missed Days 1 & 2 you can check the links on my blog page.

Have a blessed Day!